I watched Bernie Sanders speak at my school today and I just remembered how much I miss telling you about miniscule, irrelevant tidbits of my day. ^_^
So much has happened since we last spoke (well, not a lot) but I can basically recap it in that my parents have been getting on my case about grad school and trying to micromanage every single aspect of the application process. It got so bad that a couple weeks ago my dad took my phone away and told me I was being "disrespectful" and that I "didn't care" for not getting the statements of purpose done fast enough. >__>
Man, jealous. I would have love to have heard him speak.
And good luck with grad school applications! I'm sure you are taking it really seriously, just your own kind of seriously.
And I'm doing okay. I honestly haven't been doing much. I'm contracting for a company now 4 days a week learning SEO. (Basically I'm training myself so I can apply to jobs not in journalism and actually have a remote chance of getting them.) It's way more interesting than journalism ever was.
I've just been kinda struggle-bussing lately because the depression/anxiety came back and it's making it harder and harder to get stuff done. I'm also a TA again but I have a lot more responsibitlities working with groups this time around. It all just kinda freaks me out so then I avoid it.
Part of me just wants to give up on this grad school thing altogether because I don't feel like doing a ton of research but then I don't really know what I would do otherwise. Just try to land internships, I guess. I do want more actual hands on experience. I'm currently volunteering at retirement home doing art therapy with dementia patients, so that's something. xP
We should chat about this in more detail sometime! ;P
My view on grad school is only apply if you are 100% sure what you want to do and if you want to do it. It's so much work and stress, and if you aren't 100% committed you aren't going to get anything out of it. Although it will give you hands on experience. Better than getting an internship.
Most, if not all, grad schools are the same really. Some have name brand, but if you try really hard and do well at a not as well known or smaller grad school it means as much as just kind of skating through a highly regarded grad school. Employers really only see the M anyway and don't care about where you got it.
Damn, I always miss you when you're in Columbus (I am returning tonight, however). xP
Anyway, I've been alright. Some of the school-related anxiety has been dying as the semester has been winding down. However, there was a mix-up with my ride to the retirement home on Monday and I couldn't give my presentation, so I hope that doesn't affect my grade too much. I did still submit it.
Did I even tell you I was volunteering at the retirement home this semester? I was working with demenia patients. I also TAed for abnormal psychology which was complete bullshit 'cuz he made us do EVERYTHING aside from teach, with little to no training.
But yeah, how are you? It's sweet of you to think of me while you're in Columbus. Happy Almost-Thanksgiving! :D
I think you did tell me about volunteering at a retirement home, but I am glad to see you are volunteering somewhere, getting a chance to work in the field. Sounds like a great opportunity. And as long as you still submitted that you should be fine.
I'm doing pretty well, getting consistent work and learning about SEO. I'm in Kentucky now with my Grandma and brother, and we're just going to have a small Thanksgiving tomorrow, nothing special. Should be nice though, considering I've been feeling super combative lately, I don't think I want to deal with too many people on my dad's side of the family.
No it won't, which is why you should feel combative. I mean, I can't feel too combative, because that's not 100% my personality. That said, I was in a rest stop in rural Pennsylvania on Tuesday and god I felt so uncomfortable and it felt so sinister. Which is a feeling that should never happen, so yes everything is wrong. And we have to basically do what the right did for 8 years. Or else we might as well go back to the 50s.
I don't think it's that severe. It would be extremely hard for things to just revert back like that. The only way to make true progress is to learn to respect each other and to stop jumping to outlandish conclusions. There's like such a huge disconnect between Americans; we're all so out of touch with each other. And because we don't know what they go through, we have a tendency to "other" them. This happens frequently on both sides. I think being "combative" only thickens the line between us.
lol The Republicans started the disrespect when they didn't like the fact a black guy was president. And if you think things won't revert back just keep in mind no one thought President-elect Dumpster Fire would come close to even getting the nomination. We're in a whole new world now. I for one hope the Democrats give the Right a taste of their own medicine by being the same obstructionist assholes that the Republicans have been for the last 8 years.
I agree with Cooldog. We are way past respect now. The Republicans spent 8 years creating a divide between White America and "other" America. And in this election, white america came up and decided "hey, we're still the majority, let's prove to those in the 'other' how much their rights really mean." Which to them is nothing. There is no respect. This is war.
And also, I'd like to say, while they are trying to set things back, they are also becoming radicalized to the far right. Trump saying whatever he wanted and winning has mobilized White Supremacy out of the shadows. They feel like they have a voice. They need to be shown that they don't, they need to be made afraid again. The Nazi party is back and they need to be eradicated.
I'm sorry but this is all really ridiculous. What does making others afraid accomplish? If you want these deep divides to continue, then continue playing their game. There are other more mature, rational ways to react to this that don't involve war. The minute you cry end of the world is the minute you let them win and you guys slowly self-destruct. These "othering" tactics are the whole reason the DNC lost. What they need to do now is stop alienating people.
The people on the Right aren't all Nazis and the people on the Left aren't all commies. No one seems to understand the concept of nuance. It's this ridiculous extremism that keeps us divided. It's always gotta be "I'm right, the rest of you are imbeciles." Anyone who dares to question it gets called a "racist, xenophobe, insert buzzword here." Well, I'm not gonna take part in that. Guess I must be a Nazi Sympathizer or something. :/
The problem is that the only way these deep divisions close is by the left caving. Every single time. That's why the Democrats have moved so far to the right Since the late 70's, and especially since the 90's. Bill Clinton is known for "bipartisanship" because he bent over for the right. But Obama is a divider for not doing the same. No, not everyone on the right is a Nazi, and they're actually right about some aspects of economic theory. But it's really not a coincidence that they won after they started fear mongering about Muslims.
There are other more mature, rational ways to react to this that don't involve war.... These "othering" tactics are the whole reason the DNC lost. What they need to do now is stop alienating people.'
Er, how is this the case? The last 8 years are proof that this strategy works, and it's time the Democrats learn that. There's no political price for obstructionism and whipping up hostility against the opposition pays off.
The reason the Democrats lost is really quite simple. They rigged the primary process to nominate a shitty candidate who couldn't bring the base out to vote like Obama did in the past 2 elections. Between that and the scandals and dishonesty and slime that stick to the Clintons like superglue and the obvious rigging of the whole thing the Democrats did what they're best at: Snatching defeat from the jaws of victory.
I appreciate the well thought out response. Was expecting something totally different to be honest. I know you've studied history in way more depth than I have so you're probably more knowledgable on the subject. However, I'm confused as to exactly how maintaining the divisions doesn't just pave the way for more Trumps. I get that pure centrism doesn't work but no one wants or likes to be put in a certain box -- especially when ideologies and points of view can be so varied.
Centrism will always fail because it doesn't help either side. While there was a reaction to the rise of identity politics in America, especially from White America and that was definitely a big part for why the Democrats lost, the Democratic party got stuck with a feeling of elitism. The people in middle america were feeling forgotten and ignored, and they mobilized and Hillary's campaign did nothing to make them feel like the democrats, who were basically reduced to centrists during Obama's campaign sat and let middle America and the South decay into nothingness. Cooldog is absolutely right, the Democrats rested on their laurels that America wouldn't let someone so radical into their office and they completely undermined the obvious populist candidate who would have gotten that support that Hillary never would have received. Divisions were already created, and they worked. During Obama's administration Democrats were far too focused on appeasing the Right and weren't focused enough on working to get things done despite them.
Also, this election showed that as long as enough in the majority mobilize, they will vote for them and them alone. People on the right will say "I'm not racist, I was voting for me and my family." Which seems reasonable until they have to come face to face with the consequences of what their vote can do and then they do nothing about it. Not thinking about those who are disenfranchised is still a form of oppression. And when those people who "don't see color" also do nothing when they see someone be harrassed because it isn't their problem. We have to fight, we have to pick a side and we cant just stick our heads in the sand and wait for problems to solve themselves (which is centrism) otherwise we will always lose.
People are legitimately afraid, that's why protests rose up all around the country, it's not "tumblr fabrication" it's real fear, because no one can no for sure if Drumpf actually isn't going to actually go through with everything he said. Because he's a narcissist and a liar. And he was voted to be the most powerful man in America. That's horrifying. And it should be horrifying to everybody.
Also, if you see the way the right are responding to the protests you can see they are clearly not about uniting the country and all about regaining power.
However, I'm confused as to exactly how maintaining the divisions doesn't just pave the way for more Trumps.
Divisions didn't cause Trump, the rot in the two party system did. The middle class is dying and no one in the mainstream was doing anything about it. Trump rose from the ashes of a party that Bush discredited. Hillary had the nomination handed to her by a DNC that was completely in her pocket.
The two party system by its very structure breeds polarization, and to win a candidate needs to be able to secure the support of his/her own base and then flip and gain enough votes from outside their natural base. It takes political skill to do that but system tends to select for people that have it if it's free and fair. This election was different because the Republicans didn't have anyone that could unite the base because it was in such disarray after Bush, with the only thing uniting being opposition to Obama. The Democrats were in better shape but their insiders decided to rig the primary for Hillary because they pretty much promised it to her after Obama's term. That prevented their most electable candidate, Bernie Sanders from running.
The Republicans didn't have an electable candidate in the normal sense and the Democrats shafted their's. I think at the end of the day Trump won the swing states because he wasn't stained with the failed policies of both parties over the last 35 years or so.
@Cooldog Yeah, all that makes sense. @Tash I'm not really horrified to be honest.
What do you guys think of Jill Stein's recount efforts? I must say, I don't really understand what her aim is. Election integrity, fine, but why not do all the states (y'know, back when she could)? I would say she's trying to help Hillary but she still openly criticizes her.
And I think it's going to lead to nothing, but I am all for election integrity. Might as well give it a shot. The electoral college is a dated and flawed system and it needs to be eliminated or severely reformed, but that's never going to happen, so this is the second best option.
I like to try to support Liz Gillies in everything she does, but man the Dynasty reboot looks terrible. There's nothing that makes me want to die more than the idea of watching drama unfold and trying to relate to the lives and feelings of the 1%.
I know, it's so sad. I feel so badly for those people who just wanted to go and have a good time. Concerts should always be a safe space, especially for someone like Ariana Grande who always preaches inclusion.
No, I'm calling the people I'm waiting for a response from strangers. They told me I'd hear by Friday. One of the roommate's actually gave me the information to apply, so I did, dropped $200 for the application fee, only for a bunch of people to get back to her last minute so she couldn't agree, so I couldn't get the lease.
Are you going for publication in a literary magazine with it?
If I had thought further ahead, I would have just stayed in my old place and looked for another roommate to fill the room my current roommate vacated, but you know...I didn't. So that's why I'm looking again.